Daddy Downer...

last night while texting BMO...

ME: What's one goal that you have for 2008?
BMO: Find a way to be happy.
ME: Since that is a long term goal, do you have short term goals that will get you to that point?
BMO: Not really. I don't suppose I will ever get there again. Its like virginity, once its gone, its gone.
ME: That's only true if you let yourself believe it. You can find happiness if you truly want it. It may take awhile but you can find it again. You have to have a mind set that you are searching for it & willing to accept it when it comes along.

Nothing else was said on his end & I just let it go...though this is case in point why we don't work to good as a couple...I look for the best in every situation & if I can't find it...I'm looking for the next good thing to come along...granted I've never been divorced in which case he has...but then again...he doesn't have the self confidence that I do either...though in life when it knocks us down...we are suppose to get back up fighting...I'm not sure how much fight he has in him...and I sure as hell don't want to be with a man that thinks..."I can't make him happy"...the good thing is that...I know it has nothing to do with me & it's something that he is dealing with...I just hate when he gets to those low points & there is nothing I can do for him...anyhoo...maybe one day he'll get tired of being so unhappy.